Counsel on Being Confronted and Criticized (Acts 11:1-18)
1 Now the apostles and brethren who were in Judea heard that the Gentiles had also received the word of God. 2 And when Peter came up to Jerusalem, those of the circumcision contended with him, 3 saying, “You went in to uncircumcised men and ate with them!”
Regarding religious folk and ministry progress, the first act of the circumcision was not to ascribe to God glory for His amazing grace (Acts 11:1). Rather, it was to confront His servant for the audacity to live outside the lines (Acts 11:2-3). Are you following Jesus? Are you being led by the Spirit? Be warned! Some people are going to (1) find and focus on your faults, (2) point out and become preoccupied with perceived problems, and (3) come against you or contend with you for breaking with convention. What should you do?
- Be Approachable – Some leaders are above reproach and approach. They cannot be confronted and do not make themselves available for anything but applause and words full of warm sentiments. Oh leader, make yourself available for feedback and accessible to those who will give you constructive criticism. Do not be passive in this regard; be proactive about getting evaluations on your work.
- Be Accountable – Peter was able to present the facts supporting his decisions. He also had people who could testify to the veracity of his account. Jesus had mentored him into not going it alone. During the earthly ministry of Jesus the disciples were sent by twos (Mark 6:7; Luke 10:1; Ecclesiastes 4:9, 10). When Peter went out to do something that was not the norm he took people with him. He made his movements and ministry accountable to others for the sake of the gospel. By doing things in the open and with witnesses Peter is able to easily get two or three witnesses so that every word could be established (Deuteronomy 19:15).
- Be Patient – Some will need time to see why you are doing things differently. Don’t get riled up over a detractor. Take time to understand what they perceive to be a problem and then patiently help them to understand the vision God has given you and the results that have come out of the work.
Being led by the Spirit of Jesus is going to lead to conflict with the world and more than a few people in the church. Expect it. But also make sure that you are approachable, accountable, and patient.
In His grip by His grace,
Roderick L. Barnes, Sr.